Looking to get a fuck buddy? Here’s real advice from fuck buddies to help you navigate your new fuckbuddy relationship.
1. “Spend more time apart than you do together,” – Steve (22) & Claudia (23)
Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with Claudia, but I have other priorities. When we first started hooking up, we noticed we spent way too much time together, and it was getting too complicated.
So, we limited our hang time to one or two nights a week, and our casual relationship has improved a lot since then.
2. “Sleep with other people, but keep everyone involved informed,” – Kevin (25) & Marissa (24)
We are nowhere near monogamous. I’m bisexual, and Kevin has an insanely high libido. We understandably need other partners to be satisfied sexually. But when I do hook up with someone, I tell them about Kevin and tell them that we’ve both been tested (which we are). And after I hook up with someone, I tell Kevin. And vice versa.
We have rules too! I’m not allowed to hook up with his ex-girlfriends, and he’s not allowed anywhere near my gal-pals or ex-girlfriends.
3. “The other person is great for dates to low-priority parties, but weddings and family events are where you draw the line,” – Richard (28) and Belle (27)
Belle is the perfect date to work parties or friend’s birthdays. She’s social, and we have fun before leaving at the earliest possible time to go fuck. But when it came to my brother’s wedding and my mom’s birthday blow out this past year, she wasn’t allowed to come. But she totally understands.
4. “Explore one another’s fantasies but don’t forget to set boundaries,” – Micheal (28) and Tiffany (25)
One of the first things we did when we me was make a want, will, won’t list. We figured that this relationship wasn’t serious, but we wanted to make sure that our boundaries were.
For this relationship to work we wanted to venture into new territory together (sexually of course) but we didn’t want to go too far. One of our hard rules is that we don’t try anything new after drinking! This relationship has been so fun sexually because of the communication of our sexual desires.
5. “Don’t be afraid to ask for a break,” Allyn (28) and Matt (26)
I’m a very feelsy boy, Allyn, on the other hand, is not. I was going through a lot with my family and with my career, and as much as I wanted to keep fucking around with Allyn, I knew I needed a break.
I knew that we both wanted to keep things casual and I was worried that if I was in an emotional place that I’d project too much onto him. So we took a break until my family and career issues subsided and we started things back up again when I was ready. I’m so glad I made this decision!
6. “If you feel like you’re getting mixed signals, speak up,” Sean (30) and Janelle (28)
One of the things I learned throughout this non-serious relationship is how to communicate. I’ve always tried to read between the lines, but after meeting Sean, he totally made me be more straightforward with communication.
If I ever feel like he’s sending mixed signals I straight up ask him what he means. And that’s how he acts toward me too. It makes for a stress-free relationship, and I love it.
7. “If you think you’ve caught feelings, examine them, and then decide to pursue them or break it off,” Minnie (27) and Jillian (26)
After a few months of hooking up, I thought I’d caught feelings for Jillian. I did some soul searching, and I figured that I did have feelings for her. I decided to tell her, and if it weren’t going to work out, I’d break it off for my own sake.
We gave things a try, and it didn’t work out, but we’re still great friends after all of this!